Q. How Do I Handle Anger, Bitterness Or Resentment?

A. God’s Holy Word, the Bible, is a guide to help us through any circumstance we may be encountering in our life.  I would like to share with you a few scriptures which I feel will help you deal with the bitterness in your life.  Bitterness is a form of anger or resentment.  It is not always easy to see the connection, but there is a definite connection.

The first step in the process would be to admit that you are angry or in your case bitter.  It is perfectly okay to be honest with God.  Do not attempt to hide your genuine feelings from God.  Turn to Hebrews 4:13 and Ephesians 4:26 to verify that this step is a necessary one.

Next, make a genuine attempt to determine why you are bitter.  If you have any doubt that the Bible was designed to deal with our problems today read Genesis 4:6.  “And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen?”

It is very important that you do not let your emotions control you.  Read carefully the advice found in Proverbs 14:29; 16:32 and Ecclesiastes 7:9.

Bear in mind that when you are angry and speak angry words, those words only tend to stir up anger in the other person or persons.  Many times we see others respond to us in the same manner we have responded to them.   It is time to give your anger and bitterness to God.  Advice is given on this matter in Psalms 37:7, 8 and Proverbs 15:1.

Allow God to lead you into the process of forgiving others who you feel have wronged you.  It may not be easy, but God can help you through the process.  Reflect on the words of Colossians 3:13, Ephesians 4:32 and Luke 11:4

Now, comes a step that you may not have ever though about.  Forgive yourself for being angry.  “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)”   Often times individuals ask for forgiveness from God, then find it hard to believe that He has forgiven them because they have not forgiven themselves.

Anger (bitterness or resentment) is a strong force that holds many of us back from a rich spiritual walk so it is highly important that we do not allow it to build up in our hearts.  Deal with any matter that is causing anger (bitterness or resentment) to well up in you in an expedient manner.  Do not delay when you need to ask someone to forgive you.  Again the words of Ephesians 4:26 are relevant.  Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.

These are just a few suggestions that have worked for others.  We sincerely trust that they will help you.  Remember that nothing is impossible with God.  He loves you with an everlasting love.  Why not allow Him to take this burden away from you?